A letter to my 3 month old son

Dear Raife,

Today, you are 15 weeks old. Fifteen weeks ago, when you were born, you changed my life forever.


I have cried more times in the past year than I had done in the last 15. I cried when your mum told me we were going to have you. I cried when we found out you were a boy. I cried when you were placed on your mum’s chest and wrapped your tiny hand around my finger. I cried when we took you to your room for the first time. I cried when I rocked you to sleep on Christmas Day, singing ‘Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas‘. I cried when I rocked you to sleep on New Years, singing ‘Auld Lang Syne’. I cried when I opened my first ever birthday present from you – the ‘Why My Daddy is Absolutely Brilliant’ book.

I didn’t cry because I was sad. I cried because being your Daddy is the most wonderful thing ever to have happened to me.

I realise that you may be reading this as a moody teenager, and you might be embarrassed by me being your ‘Daddy’ (I’m seriously resisting the urge to make note of some things you’d really be embarrassed by as a moody teenager). As you read this, I might be your ‘Dad’ or your ‘Father’, even ‘Oldman River’ like we call your Grandad. But right now, I’m your Daddy, and you’ll always be my little boy.

I’m writing this letter so that in times of need you can read it and not bother your old man. At the moment, you’re completely dependent on Mummy and Daddy, but it won’t be long before you’re able to feed yourself, move around yourself, and think for yourself. I hope this letter helps you to be the best you can be.

Be happy

You’re already such a happy person. Your smile is infectious and I want you to take that throughout your life. You will go through times where you couldn’t be happier, and you’ll go through times where you couldn’t be sadder. But life can pass by so quickly, don’t waste it focusing on the things that make you unhappy.

Find something you love and go for it

So many people spend their lives in jobs they’re not passionate about, or worse, hate. When you find something you’re passionate about, put your everything into it. You spend more time at work than with the ones you love, so make it count. Wake up on Monday morning happy and motivated to go to work. Put all the time and effort you can into achieving your goals.

Don’t take things too seriously

There are a lot of important things in life, but enjoying life is more important. Don’t worry about the things you can’t control. Don’t worry about what others think. Laugh, have fun, enjoy yourself.

Be you

Too many people in this world battle to be ‘normal’ and just like everyone else. But that’s no fun. And more importantly, it won’t make you happy. Always be yourself, because you are pretty damn brilliant. Never change who you are for anyone (unless you’re a little pain in the arse!).

We’ll always be there for you

We will always want what is best for you and we will always try to do what is best for you. Like everyone, especially when you’re younger, it will seem like you know best. We were the same with your grandparents, but you’ll soon realise that we do know a thing or two about life… mainly down to our age! Whatever your problems, we will always be there for you, to listen, to support you and to guide you down the right path.

Love, Daddy







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